Good Leaders Need to Have Good Manners, Too

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We are at our best with those random acts of kindness to strangers.

Co-workers and family members don’t fare so well. The reasons vary: We take them for granted and think they’ll love us anyway. Or maybe familiarity breeds irritability.

Whatever the cause, rudeness has ruined family relationships. And otherwise competent business leaders are disliked and dissed by their staff and peers because they fail to understand that manners matter.

The revival of respect and kindness could revolutionize employee engagement.

Rude? Who me?

Leaders communicate a lack of respect and discourtesy by:

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  • Arriving late to meetings and wasting others’ time by keeping them waiting;
  • Fidgeting with electronic gadgets while others are trying to carry on a conversation with them;
  • Texting and emailing during a meeting;
  • Paying no attention during phone conferences so that things have to be repeated;
  • Not offering to lower the volume if a loud noise is disturbing others;
  • Not speaking to others when entering a room;
  • Failing to return a greeting when someone speaks to them;
  • Borrowing others’ things without asking;
  • Sulking and withdrawing when in a bad mood;
  • Speaking in a harsh tone when upset;
  • Slamming a door in someone’s face — whether intentional or in haste;
  • Using sarcasm or put-down humor meant to embarrass others on sensitive issues;
  • Dressing someone down” in front of others so as to embarrass and humiliate that person;
  • Speaking to some people but not others in a group;
  • Not offering to help others carry a heavy load;
  • Failing to say “please” and “thank you” or express appreciation for work done;
  • Failing to exchange pleasantries such as asking how others are feeling when they’ve been out sick

Great leaders master manners

The opposite of these actions, of course, are the small kindnesses that communicate respect for others, engage their hearts, and ultimately increase your influence when you have an important belief or value to share.

Manners matter a great deal to leaders who last.

This was originally published at BooherResearch.com

Dianna Booher’s latest books include Faster, Fewer, Better Emails; Communicate Like a Leader; What MORE Can I Say?, Creating Personal Presence:  and Communicate With Confidence.. She’s the bestselling author of 48 books, published in 61 foreign editions. Dianna helps organizations communicate clearly and leaders to expand their influence by a strong executive presence. National Media such as Good Morning America, USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, Bloomberg, Forbes, FOX, CNN, NPR, and Entrepreneur have interviewed her for opinions on workplace communication issues. She blogs for Forbes, Microsoft, and The CEO Magazine.  www.BooherResearch.com   @DiannaBooher  817-283-2333

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